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Coping with Trauma:
Approaches for Dealing with Painful Experiences
When you experience trauma, it feels as though something deep and invisible remains within you. Initially, there may be a feeling of shock, where the world seems to stop, and you're unsure how to proceed. But afterward, these feelings linger—no matter how much you try to move forward, something inside remains stuck. Your body feels as though it’s on constant alert, every muscle tense, your heart racing, leaving you feeling vulnerable and exposed. Sometimes it feels as though you’re moving between lives—as if you’re here, but not really present. Worries and fears flood your mind, preventing any peace—thoughts race, and images of the event return at the most unexpected times.
Maybe you try to maintain your routine, but there are moments when the world feels foreign. You might even find yourself avoiding things that once felt natural—meeting friends, going to certain places, or even simply stepping outside. You feel distant from people, even close ones, as if they can’t understand what you’re feeling, or that sharing would be too painful. Sometimes, it feels as though your body is trying to tell you something—a lump in your throat, aches, trembling hands—but you don’t know how to listen.
When you’re finally alone with yourself, perhaps all you want is to forget, to stop thinking, and feel safe again. But the thoughts won’t leave, and the fears seep into every empty corner. Feelings of loneliness and pain persist, even as you try to move forward. It’s as though the trauma has become a part of you, directing your life, and you wonder if it’s possible to return to who you were before.
If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone. Trauma is a profound experience that impacts the mind, body, and emotions in subtle yet powerful ways. It’s important to understand that there are ways to cope, and that treatments are available to help you gradually reclaim control of your life.
Treatment Approaches for Coping with Trauma
Each person and each type of trauma benefit from specific and effective therapeutic approaches. An experienced therapist will know how to select the most appropriate method from their toolkit based on the individual’s needs, capacities, and experiences.
Here’s an overview of key approaches to coping with trauma:
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Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, is one of the most common methods for treating trauma. Through this therapy, the therapist and client establish a close relationship, allowing the client to share their story and process difficult experiences in a safe, supportive environment. The therapy focuses on identifying emotional and behavioral patterns formed due to trauma, working to rebuild trust in others, and developing tools to handle anxiety and difficult memories.
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Mindfulness
Mindfulness is a practice that enables us to be present, even when thoughts about the past or worries about the future try to take over. Trauma survivors often struggle to feel fully present in the moment, making mindfulness an important tool for calming the body, listening to oneself, and accepting the current experience as it is. Through mindfulness, clients learn to acknowledge their feelings without fighting them, reducing physical stress responses.
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EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
EMDR is a unique method for treating trauma and is considered one of the most effective techniques for processing traumatic memories. It combines working through painful memories with eye movements that help reprocess the traumatic experience. This technique works by desensitizing the memory, creating an emotional detachment that enables clients to confront memories in a healthier way without emotional overwhelm.
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Guided Imagery
In guided imagery therapy, the client is encouraged to imagine calming scenes or positive experiences to replace difficult memories with feelings of calm and control. Guided imagery fosters an internal sense of safety, allowing the client to relive traumatic memories in a way that enables emotional processing and separation from the pain associated with them.
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Somatic Therapy
Trauma is stored not only in our memories but also in our bodies. Somatic therapy focuses on tuning into the body and releasing the tension or trauma held within it due to difficult experiences. This therapy teaches clients to reconnect with their bodily sensations, identify the body’s responses to trauma, and work on relaxation. Through techniques like mindful movement, deep breathing, or gentle touch, it is possible to release stored pain from the body.
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Therapeutic Writing
Writing is another tool that can aid in processing trauma. Sometimes, when it’s hard to express our experiences and emotions verbally, writing allows us to communicate them freely. Through writing, clients can share their stories, express their pain and fears, and process difficult experiences in a gradual, soothing way.
National Trauma: Coping with Ongoing Crisis
In these times, following the national crisis sparked by the events of October 7th and its aftermath, many of us are experiencing collective trauma—a sense of uncertainty, fear, and communal grief. Coping with this type of trauma requires unique tools, as it arises not only from personal experience but also from the broader reality we live in.
Experienced therapists can help process these difficult experiences and address the psychological effects of this crisis. Using the techniques mentioned above, it’s possible to process traumatic experiences, reduce ongoing anxiety and stress, and restore a sense of safety and control, even in times of uncertainty.
Summary
Trauma is a painful and challenging experience, but there are diverse ways to manage it. Each person can find the method or methods best suited to them—whether through psychotherapy, mindfulness, EMDR, somatic therapy, or other tools. It’s essential to find the right treatment to help you process painful experiences and grow from them. Especially in times of ongoing national crisis, there is a vital need to address trauma and its effects on both body and mind. The right therapy can lead to release and renewal, even in the face of deep pain.
Efrat Misholi Barak
Efrat Mishuali Barak is a body-mind psychotherapist focused on mindfulness. She works with adults, adolescents, and children dealing with emotional difficulties such as depression, anxiety, or stress, and with individuals facing trauma. Therapy is available in Hebrew and English.
Clinics: Tel Aviv, Ramat Hasharon (appointments can also be made via Zoom).
Efrat Misholi Barak
Phone No.: 052-3522214
Email: efratmb@gmail.com